What do you see?

Was interacting with a divorced girl I met online per marriage. From the begining I saw some flags but restrained myself from challenging her on certain things. Family got involved and got along. Girl decides that she does want to proceed and gives me very vague reasoning..."I'm indecisive" she says and says other reasons don't matter. I respect her decision but decide that given the effort, money, time, heart and sould I have invested in giving to her of my self...my family and I deserve at least a clear response. I call her and challenge her respectfully though...she explodes. Does not want to talk, defensive as hell, makes me feel that my family and I were pawns at her bidding...she's decided whatever she has decided and now noone needs to question that nor ask for reasons why. She gives in from this holier than thou attitude when she realizes that this might get back to her parents via my sister calling them. Says she respects my family and I but acts the opposite. What do you see?